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Thursday, August 25, 2022

Hemiplegic Migraine, Multiple Sclerosis, and Life

 Hey there Fibro-Froggies!  I've had a long hiatus, but I'm back!  I'll be posting as I used to, trying to educate the general population about living life with Fibromyalgia and other chronic pain & fatigue issues. Advocating for more research to try to find a cure, or a solid universal treatment plan that works for EVERYONE, and to try and help others that live with chronic pain conditions navigate this thing called "life".  Over the last few years life has taken many twists and turns for me, with many peaks and valleys.  Living with chronic pain conditions, we all ride the roller coaster of life.  Sometimes we laugh and have fun, but more days than not, we just wish we could hop off this roller coaster that we're stuck on.



A few years ago, I started experiencing some new symptoms.  The first time it happened, it was around midnight. I was sitting at my computer talking through PM on FB with a friend. They worked 2nd shift and had just gotten off work and asked me if I wanted to meet them at a restaurant to grab a bite to eat.  I was trying to tell them that I would like to, but that I had already taken my night time sleep meds.  I typed it out and hit enter.  The response back was "Huh?" ...I thought "what the heck?!  How could they not understand what I just said?  I looked up to read what I had put, to see how I could possibly write it any clearer.  When I looked up to read it I was dazed!!  What was showing on the screen was something to the effect of "aooxxxazzzoiejk".  I said right out loud ...."WTF?!  THAT isn't what I typed out!" and I typed again, telling them I'd like to, but that I had already just taken my nighttime sleep  medicine.  I hit enter and looked at the screen.  Once again I just had a random string of letters that didn't spell anything.  To say I was scared at that point, was an understatement!  I immediately thought "Am I having a stroke?!".  My youngest daughter was living with me at the time and her bedroom was upstairs, as was my computer and craft room that I was in.  I jumped up and went to take a step to go to her to ask if I was having a stroke or not, and I was super off balance.  I couldn't really walk.  I yelled for her and she came running in.  When she came in she immediately said "What's wrong with your face?"  I told her "I don't know, what IS wrong with my face?"  Courtney told me that both of my eyes were drooping. She was able to make out what I was saying, but my speech was slurred and I've been told I wasn't making sense all of the time.  I got the point across of what had happened with me trying to type and she looked at it.  She helped me get downstairs and I made her take me into the bathroom where I had a mirror.  I looked to make sure that both of my eyes were drooping, and not just one. -Which would be an indication of a stroke.  I then stuck my tongue out in front of the mirror to see if it deviated to one side or another.  It did not.  Whew.  I was pretty sure at that point that it was NOT a storke!  -Thank Gawd for me having a medical background lol.  I still was scared shitless though.  By the time this all had been done, I was coming out of whatever had happened.  She helped me get from the bathroom to my bed and I laid down.  I'll tell ya though, I didn't sleep. I kept laying there thinking that I was going to die. I really, truly, thought I was on my way out lol.  

When the sun finally came up, I too was up.  I still was literally in tears, scared shitless about what had happened. I knew my parents were early risers and my mom had an aide that would be there at 8am, so I threw on clothes and off to my parents house I raced.  I walked in, and loudly announced "I think I MAY have had a stroke last night.  Although it was both of my eyes that were drooping not just one, and my tongue didn't deviate to one side or another.  So honestly it doesn't fit a stroke but it has to be something serious.  I think I may be dying"!!  I along with my moms aide both were on google on our phones, and I then told everyone, "yeah, see I don't fit the catagories that it was a stroke, but everything else sure seemed like it was".  As soon as my doctors office opened I called for an emergency appointment and they got me right in.  


First off, I love my doctor.  If she would ever up and leave the community, I would up & leave with her. I swear I'd make it happen haha.  She is one of the very FEW doctors that believe in Fibromyalgia and knows the significance of living with it.  Like she gets it sooooo much, that I'm sure either she has it herself, or someone in her family that she's very close to has it.  Anyway, when she walked into my room, she could tell how scared I was.  She told straight up "Ok, this definitely wasn't a stroke because it 100% wouldn't affect both of your eyes.  She told me if she had to guess, she would say I either had myasynthia gravis, or MS.  Ummm ....excuse me but myo-what??!  She ordered an MRI of my brain.  One with contrast and one without.  Guess what?  The scans came back completely NORMAL!  How?!  What the heck had happened to me?  She told me upon follow up, "Let's just hope it was a fluke and never happens again".  Ok.  Let's hope.  

Let's fast forward about 6 months.  All was still good and I was "normal".  You know, OUR normal.  The NORMAL that those of us with fibro and other chronic pain conditions have.  -No more weird face drooping.  No more weird random strings of letters when I try to type.  Then one night, it was late.  -Because you know, with fibro my insomnia is one of my biggest comorbidities.  It is just awful!  Anyway, the time had come that I had moved in with my parents to start helping take care of them medically and help them around the house.  I'm an only child, I have medical POA of them both, and unfortunately their health was (IS) declining.  Way more rapidly than I would like for sure.  So it just made sense that I move in with them, to make thins easier on all of us.  Well, they were having trouble sleeping that night too and they were up in the living room.  I got up to walk out there and tell them something.  It's been so long ago, that I don't even remember what I was trying to tell them. But anyway I walked out there said whatever it was I had wanted to say and my dad looked at me and said "What?"...I said "what do you mean what?  I said .....x.xxxx".  I again was met with "Amy, I can't understand you.  You're not making any sense".  At this point I was starting to get mad.  I said it all again, very loudly thinking that where they're getting hard of hearing they just couldn't hear me.  My dad again very loudly told me "I don't know what you're saying.  Are you drunk or on drugs or what?" ...what in the HELL did he mean?  I could hear myself talking. I could hear the words plain as day.  What was wrong with my dad that HE couldn't understand me?  I went to take a step and I lost my balance and stumbled into their grandfather clock.  I couldn't understand what was going on.  He just kept telling me that I must be a closet alcoholic or on drugs or something and if I needed help, I should get help.  He said that he could tell by my face, that I was on something because my eyes looked so funny. OH MY GAWD was I infuriated lol.  My mom said to let her help me get to bed, so I did.  I woke up the next morning and I was still pissed off lol. Like seriously pissed off.  When I walked out to the living room my dad brought it up again and I just kept defending myself that I had not had a sip of alcohol (I take way too many prescriptions these days to mix alcohol into it all).  I wasn't on any drugs besides those prescribed to me.  When he brought up my eyes being funny again, it finally hit me!  I said wait a minute were my eyes drooping?!  My mom said "YES!! That's it excactly!  Your eyes looked really funny and that's why. They were drooping"!!  I said "Oh my gosh!  It's happened again.  You know, remember 6 months ago when I came over here early in the morning and had thought I may have had a stroke?  THAT is what was going on last night too!".  This is a really long story already, so I'll suffice it to say I was referred by my GP to a neurologist.  I made an appointment with the one my mom uses, because I already knew him, from taking my ma to her appointments.  I had another episode of this same thing happening again, just a few weeks later while waiting on my appointment with neuro.  


The neuro was a younger guy who really listened to me about my history.  He was great!  He told me though, that there was no way it was myasynthia gravis.  He explained why not, but I have this thing called fibro fog, and I honestly don't remember why it didn't fit the myasynthia gravis catagory.  He said that he thought I have either hemiplegic migraines or MS.  I told him no, I couldn't have MS because I'd already had 2 mri's on my brain and I didn't have any lesions. I told him one had been done without contrast, so then my GP had ordered one with contrast and all was good.  I then told him that it couldn't be SHM (sporadic hemiplegic migraine) because I never have had a headache at all when this happened. He started shaking his head. He said that with SHM, it's a very rare migraine and that it's way different than a "typical migraine".  He said I didn't have to have a headache with it.  He also said he wanted a new mri of my brain, but also wanted one of my neck and my spine. He said that MS doesn't always show in the brain. That it sometimes hides in your neck or spine.  Hmm ....ok, I scheduled the MRI's.  They couldn't get me in for them, for close to a month.  2 or 3 days before my MRI appointment, our whole house caught covid.  So, I had to call and cancel them, telling them we were all in quarantine for covid.  Instead of rescheduling me right then, they told me just to call them back to reschedule once I was recovered.  MISTAKE!!  In my usual fashion, I kept forgetting to do it.  

Fast forward to now.  I still haven't had the MRI's.  This has been somewhere close to 2  years ago.  To my knowledge, I haven't had any more episodes like I had in the past.  BUT, I've recently developed some new symptoms.  Symptoms worrisome enough to me, that I was going to call the neuro and get another appointment, knowing that the MRI's would need to be rescheduled.  Recently, and mostly at night. I will have random body jerks.  Or twitches. I'm not sure exactly how to describe it.  I'll be sitting here at my desk and sometimes my finger will jerk.  Sometimes my whole arm from the shoulder will jerk.  Last night my entire right side jerked. It's so weird, ya'll!  Let's just say as MY luck would have it, right when I was getting ready to call the great neuro Dr. Patti, my mom and I both received letters in the mail from the practice saying that Dr. Patti was leaving and would no longer be our doctor, but that the rest of the staff was still there to serve our needs.  UGH!!  I am horrible about going to see a new doctor.  I honestly feel like I've been traumatized in the past from mean, rude doctors bascially telling me I'm faking. Telling me that fibro isn't real.  Basically telling me I'm nothing but a fake.  I've left so many doctor offices and ER departments in tears, that the thought of going to see a brand new doctor that I don't know, causes me more anxiety than I care to share.  I know I'm going to have to though. But I'm still procrastinating picking up the phone and making that call.  I know that some of  you can relate to every word I've just said.  -And THAT is what sickens me.  It truly makes me sick that we are treated like that.  

Last night, my Ma was sitting in my office with me.  She has a recliner in here, and my computer desk chair is the ONLY piece of furniture in this house that I can sit in half way comfortably for longer than 5-10 minutes.  I have a large computer monitor so I stream tv in here on my computer and that is how I watch tv.  She saw the large jerk the right side of my body made, so all day today she's been on me to call the neuro for an apppointment with someone.  Whoever they decide to pawn me off on.  It's now 4:46pm and I haven't picked up the phone yet.  Not today.  TODAY, I'm reconnecting with my fibro froggies out there and letting you all know, that I'm back.  I'm back for good, too!  I know that my one little voice probably won't help a bit in the grand scheme of things when it comes to education and advocacy on living with chronic illnesses, but if I don't try to spread awareness, try to educate and advocate for all of us living with these nightmare illnesses, and try to advocate for research, then I can't complain when a doctor treats me like I'm crazy when I present with my symptoms. I can't complain that there isn't a cure, and I also can't complain when someone blessed enough to NOT live with a chronic pain and fatigue illness, doesn't understand where I'm coming from.  It's going to take a LOT of voices for true changes to made concerning the stigma, and for more research to be done.  And maybe ....just maybe my voice will be the one that adds to the pile of others, that give the push that's needed on these fronts.  

If I know that any of my words have touched even ONE person, or helped ONE person understand that the life we live is truly a life trapped in HELL, then every word I've typed will be worth it.  If I make ONE person feel like they aren't alone in this fight, then it's worth it.  Even though I've been MIA from this site, I still have been living my life with this blog's motto in mind.  -Never Give Up Hope!!  -Without HOPE, you don't have anything!!  I'm also am willing to once again accept interview requests, to write guest author posts, magazine articles, and life-coach.  I am once again offering seminars on how how to live with chronic pain, AND corporate seminars to educate department heads on how to accommodate workers that have chronic pain conditons.  With just a little education, employee retention and productivity can both be upped!  Also feel free to contact me if you're looking for a key-note speaker, or any type of public speaking engagement.  I'm a nationally certified clinical medical assistant who can life coach on topics involving divorce, living with chronic pain, and motivate those who want to lose weight employing basic nutritional goals with light to moderate exercise.  I've lost over 100 pounds, myself with a full RNY Gastric Bypass, and employing light exercise (we all know how hard it is to motivate ourselves to exercise when we live with chronic pain!),  I am here for you, to help motivate you and show you that you can still navigate this thing called "life" when you have chronic illnesses.  It's hard, and as before I will NEVER fluff my blog and say that anything is easy to do when you're a fibro frog or have ANY other  chronic pain illness.  


The biggest thing to remember my friends, is to Never Give up HOPE!!



Monday, November 26, 2012

I'm A Real Person, With Real Illnesses And I Extend A Challenge To You


As I opened my eyes this morning, I could tell that it was going to be an "off" day.  The feeling that I was awakening after being hit by a Mack truck wouldn't shake.  Last night, everything hurt from my head down to my big toe.  You're probably asking yourself "her big TOE hurt?!".  Yep, even my big toe hurt as silly as that sounds.  

Today, my head hurts and my nose is stuffy.  Ultimately, since I get sick if I even pass someone in a grocery store that sneezes or coughs, I'm sure I'm coming down with a cold.  I feel sad and depressed today.  I just get so tired or never feeling good.  I'm sick and tired, of being sick and tired.  

Feelings of guilt keep me from posting a lot of the time when I don't feel good.  My oldest daughter who's 23 and a graduate student in both developmental and international economics at the University of Denver, gently reminds me every now and then, that I need to conduct myself as a professional.  She knows my hopes and dreams of presenting my seminar and being a speaker at conventions.  She knows that I'm passionate about activism and research to find a treatment plan or a cure.  If I want to be booked as a professional, then I need to act professional right?  Professionals don't go online and complain about their every day mundane aches and pains.

Nikki is one of the toughest people I've ever known.  I'm not just saying that because she's my daughter.  If you met her now, you'd never have a clue what she's been through to get to where she's at.  The amount of tenacity that this young lady possesses is unreal.  Coming from an extremely modest background, ok I'll be completely honest: a poor background, she got a job at 16 years old and has never been without one since.  Sometimes more then one job, all while going to school.  Both high school and college.  She's paid her own way all through college while carrying an insane amount of full-time college credits and still making all A's.  I haven't paid for so much as one single book, let alone anything else she's needed.  Not because I didn't want to, but because I haven't been able to afford to. Researching and finding the best college for what she wanted to do with her life, she switched from living at home and attending our local college of Bowling Green State University, to packing up and jumping on a plane to start a new life in Denver, CO.  She switched after her sophomore year.  She made new friends, found new jobs, and met new people.  Nikki has met some of the most influential people that we have in the U.S.  She's been to grand benefits where she's met and spoke with people such as the founder of AOL, among many others.  She doesn't complain about anything.  She knows what she needs to do, and she gets it done.  Sometimes putting in 14-16 hour days or more, without complaint.

You're probably asking yourself right about now, why I just told you all of this about my daughter.  What does it have to do with me feeling like total poo today?  Well, it has a lot to do with it.  If Nichole says that I need to conduct myself in a professional manner, then I tend to believe her.  I feel guilty complaining because for one, it isn't professional.  For two, how can I complain when she works so very hard, supports herself while attending an expensive college, and she never complains?  Sick or not, she goes to classes and completes her jobs. 

A very old friend that I think a lot of, sent me a facebook message this morning.  He simply said "I feel that sometimes you're too hard on yourself.  Give yourself a break".  You know what?  He's right.  I am too hard on myself sometimes.  Thoughts about these two sentences, have plagued me all day.  Sure, no one wants to hear someone gripe and complain constantly, but if I really feel terrible, then it's ok to admit that.  As much as I want to be a professional, I'm not at this time.  Even if I achieve my dreams and have seminars scheduled every weekend of every month it still will come down to this: A public speaker or not, I'm a human being first.  A real person.  Unfortunately, a real person who has real illnesses.  Illnesses in which there isn't a cure, and not even solid treatment plans that will help.  Illnesses that cause depression. Illnesses like some of you, deal with every day too.

If you're reading this blog entry and you don't suffer from a neuro-immune disorder, or you don't suffer from an auto-immune disorder like I do, then you're probably not going to be able to fully comprehend what it's like to be stuck in a body that's always sick or to have a mind where you'll be right in the middle of speaking, and forget what you were trying to say or even what you were thinking about.  

One of the best analogies I've read, is in a pamphlet put out by the American Rheumatology Association.  It compares Fibromyalgia to having the flu.  Think back to the last time you had the flu.  Do you remember how tired and physically drained you were?  Do you remember how sore your skin was?  How about the sore, aching muscles?  Sometimes when you'd move, you'd get sharp pains.  Your head hurt, even your hair sometimes felt like it was hurting.  Take all of that and add in joints that swell and hurt to the point that you have trouble standing up from a seated position and hurts enough that you audibly say "ow" most every time you go to rise. Although my illnesses doesn't make you run a high fever like you do with the flu, you do run frequent low-grade fevers.  Now, I seriously want you to think about everything in this paragraph.  Then, I'd like to you think about the fact that you're going to have to live every day of your life feeling like this.   Do you know what the leading cause of death among fibromyalgia patients is?  It's suicide.  Women with fibromyalgia have a ten times higher rate of suicide then the general public.  These are people who didn't have any kind of mental health problems before contracting fibromyalgia.  Women with fibromyalgia also have a higher death rate from liver disease and stroke, then women without fibromyalgia.  There hasn't been enough concentrated research though, to find out why women with fibromyalgia have a higher death rate from liver disease and stroke so the correlation to fibromyalgia hasn't been figured out yet. Just one of the many reasons more research is needed.  If you're interested in reading about the study that was conducted to bring about these statements, you can click HERE.

If you'd like to hear a speaker that suffers every day like you do, and "get's it" then contact me and we'll talk.  I'm not a doctor, nor a researcher; I don't have any fancy initials of any kind behind my name.  What I do have though, is first hand experience and knowledge about what people like me, people like us, go through on a daily basis, just to survive.  This seminar will help those who suffer, to see they aren't alone.  It gives some survival tips and lists resources.  It also gives the person suffering the ability to help those around them, to understand what it's like to be sick like this and help them understand.  For those who attend that doesn't suffer, they'll be offered the proof to help dispel untrue myths about these illnesses.  It will provide information on recent studies.  It'll help them to be aware and hopefully instill some compassion in them, for those who suffer.  It also talks about how little research there is, and how important future research is, and why it's so important. Whether a sufferer or a community member; a lawmaker or in the medical field, this seminar will help you to understand the truth of these illnesses that cause fatigue and chronic pain. 

If you think about the paragraph previously stated, giving the analogy of having the flu every day for the rest of your life, hopefully you'll understand how important this seminar is.  How important future research is, for those of us who suffer.  If you have the understanding and compassion, I'm extending a challenge to you this holiday season.  I challenge you to give up a specialty coffee or two each week, and instead donate that money to my fundraiser.  Help me to help not only myself, but all of the others that also are living their lives one day at a time to make it through.  You can make a secure donation, on my GoFundMe page.  The link to it is on the right hand sidebar of my blog, but I'll also list a link to it as well: Donation Page.