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Thursday, May 12, 2016

Daily Little Accomplishments


This is a sponsored post for Self Care Catalysts.  I have been compensated through the Chronic Illness Bloggers network.  All opinions remain my own and I was in no way influenced by the company.

Do you ever have those days where every little thing you try to do seems almost impossible?  Those days when it's hard just to even crawl out of bed?  I know that with Fibromyalgia, I sure do!  Sometimes, it seems as if it's an effort even to eat.

When a person is in a fibro flare, even the smallest ordinary daily task can feel as if it's almost impossible to accomplish.  What many don't realize though, is that all of those little, ordinary tasks that we do, are in fact accomplishments that deserve to be celebrated.  

For some reason, it seems to be human nature to be hard on ourselves.  Those of us suffering from Fibromyalgia and other like illnesses, tend to be even harder on ourselves than healthy people are.  We feel guilty about those things that we don't accomplish in a day, when in all honesty, we should be celebrating those tasks that we do accomplish.


Most people these days, have a dishwasher.  I'm not lucky enough to have that privilege.  I can tell you that standing to do dishes, is one of the hardest tasks for me to do.  It causes an enormous amount of pain in my back, shoulders, and arms.  The only way I can accomplish doing them, is to do them in sections.  I'm usually able to manage washing the silverware and cups, then I have to sit and rest for 15-20 minutes.  I then head back to the kitchen, and wash as much as I can before the pain becomes too much, then I sit and rest again for another 15-20 minutes.  I repeat this process, until all of the dishes are done.  I used to beat myself up that it'd take me a couple of hours to complete a task, that would take a normal person 10 or 15 minutes total to do.  I've learned though, that instead of beating myself up over the amount of time it takes me to do the dishes, to instead congratulate myself and celebrate the fact that at least I did get the dishes done!  


I joke around with my friends and family all of the time, asking them if I should do my hair and make up for the day, or if I should just go around looking homeless.  Let me tell ya, folks ...most a lot of days, I go around looking homeless lol.  Between the muscular pain of fibro on top of osteoarthritis throughout my body, doing my hair is one heck of a chore!  The struggle is real. The arthritis is so bad in the joints where my arms hook onto my shoulders, that I really have a limited range of motion.  On the rare days that I actually muster up the energy to straighten or curl my hair, I definitely look at that as an accomplishment.  I feel proud of myself when I look into the mirror.  At first, I'd just be all grumpy and say to myself "Why are you proud that you did your hair?" I mean, most people do their hair every single day whether they're leaving their house or not.  Well, I had to stop and realize that I'm not like most people.  I have several debilitating illnesses.  The fact that I did my hair, truly is something that I should be proud of.  I shouldn't cheat myself out of the joy of my accomplishment.  Instead, I should be celebrating it because it truly is an accomplishment!


The next time that you're completely exhausted, and/or in pain, and you manage to even get out of the bed that day, recognize the amount of effort it took.  If you actually get out of your pj's and into real clothes, celebrate your accomplishment!  The little things that you do, truly are accomplishments and deserve a medal.  Absolutely nothing that you do, is too little to be proud of and celebrate.  If you're having a bad day and being too hard on yourself, go to Self Care Catalysts and read their website or design your own self-care program!  Embrace who you are, make the most of it, and celebrate every accomplishment you do no matter how small it may seem to someone else! Know that I am proud of you, and I'm handing you a blue ribbon because in my book, you're a first place winner!




4 comments:

  1. Good for you! You managed to encourage me and remind me that it's ok to allow ourselves to just do the best we can. I too have fibro and osteo but I'm 61. Diagnosed with both close together 15 years ago. The first 5 years were the hardest. Warm weather...great. Cold weather..extremely bad! Last year I was also diagnosed with an essential tremor and started using a an anti-convulsant drug called gabapentin. It has helped control the irritating head movement but surprisingly it helped with much of my fibro problems.
    Living with chronic pain is still surprising to me after all this time. Most people don't even know as I found out years ago....if you don't have it you cannot possibly understand. I gradually learned to stop getting involved or making promises I couldn't keep and living a quieter more stress free life where I could to help control the symptoms. Am I better? I think I've just learned to live with the pain. With grown kids I don't have to push myself so hard and my husband has been pretty good about the whole thing. Guess he's learned to live with it too. :D
    I've never talked to others who have this or blogged about it myself until just recently. I've learned to keep quiet after being told initially "you just need to get up and get moving" by a friend. Now I've learned to just take care of myself and stop worrying about what others think of me. It is also becoming more common to people who hear about it. I'm glad.
    Hope you have a great weekend.
    Debbie

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  2. Thank you for sharing!!! I feel this exact way but I don't celebrate my victories I beat myself up for what I should be able to do and don't get done.

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  3. Thank you Thank you for sharing with us. You give me so much hope and such different ways to deal with my illnesses. I struggle to keep up when I have to just let it all go. Then on my good ( or better) days I overdo it to catch up then I'm down again. Seems I'm always making an excuse or apologizing to someone. You have given me hope and shown me it's OK to take care of myself. So Thank You! I might make it through this.

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  4. I've actually just been contemplating this very thing. I have such trouble trying to clean my house, and I had to accept that "It's Ok" to do things in small steps. Thank you so much for sharing :)

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